Q & A on Being Newly Married!

 1. I know as a woman, submitting to a man is difficult especially in this day in age. My question is, how do we begin to learn to be a submissive wife? Can we learn to do that before marriage?

"Slaves, obey your earthly masters with respect and fear, and with sincerity of heart, just as you would obey Christ." -Ephesians 6:5

Why does this verse say "just as you would obey Christ?" Because this verse is saying that we are also slaves to Christ. This is confirmed in the very next verse which goes on to say:

"Obey them not only to win their favor when their eye is on you, but as slaves of Christ, doing the will of God from your heart." -Ephesians 6:6

Obedience is bigger than the slave and his master. It is bigger than the bride and her groom or the husband and his wife. Obedience goes back to Jesus Christ. As a church, we are not only slaves to Christ, but we are His bride. In every relationship that we have, the way we act is a direct reflection of how we treat Jesus in our personal relationships with Him. If we always disobey Jesus, we will inevitable disobey our husbands and parents. I we curse Jesus we will curse our neighbors.

The closer you are to Jesus, the more sensitive you will be to the Holy Spirit who will lead you into all truth. Being obedient is not an option for me because the conviction in me has grown too strong to let it be. I know that my obedience is bigger than my feelings and emotions. My obedience is connected with God's good and perfect will for my life.

Whenever I act wrongly towards my husband, I get a check in my spirit. The Holy Spirit will speak to me and lead me to apologize and submit to my husband. If you want to prepare for submission in marriage, repent, begin to obey God in the things that He is speaking to you, and recognize that His plans are bigger than your present circumstances and emotions.

2. How do you know when you are ready to be married to your fiance?

The wedding ring symbolizes eternity. It is a band with neither a start nor finish that says you and your spouse are committed now and forever, no matter the circumstance. 

That is why during a marriage ceremony, wedding rings are exchanged after the verbal and written vows are exchanged first.

You know you are ready to be married when you have prayed about it, understand the level of commitment, are willing to take on that commitment, and realize that commitment is not for your own selfish agenda but to bring God glory.

That is why I married my husband while still in school. I was committed to him and I wasn't waiting for things to be perfect for us to move on to the next level. Everyone was pressuring me to wait till I finished school two more years from now but I had spent time praying about it and I knew it was the right time for me. I married my husband in faith. He was looking for a job and was not working. Still, I didn't base my decision on the rough time we had been going through, but rather my commitment to him. Now he has a job and is able to provide for us but I am happy that I got to show him my commitment even when he had nothing materialistic or monetary to give.

3. What are some things you have to share or blend together once you get married?

The main thing that is different that you'll have to share is your life. All of the dreams, plans, goals, and family that you had before are now shared with the one you marry. These things you should share naturally but there will be other things that you have to intentionally share. Things such as feelings, secrets, money, will require you to put in the effort and communication to be open about those things. Different things work for different couples but Chris and I try our best to share everything. Still, it is healthy to take sometime to spend with friends or get some space every now and then.

As far as worship, I still like to have my secret time with the Lord because that is extra precious but I try to do it early in the morning or when Chris is away so that when he and I are together, we can then spend our devotional time together.

You also have to keep in mind though that God enters the midst of marriages in Him and He is always there.

The bible says: in Matthew 18:20: "For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them." 

When you get married you are qualified for that verse for the rest of your life. Therefore, you both share God's presence.

4.  What can us single women do to prepare ourselves for our soon-to-be future husbands?

Preparing to be a wife is a process that continues even after marriage. I'm still learning how to be a wife, particularly, Chris' wife. The Lord began preparing me as I kept seeking to develop my relationship with Him personally. It just happened naturally thanks to the Holy Spirit who leads and teaches. Still, a unique way in which the Lord helped prepare me to be a wife was through showing me how to be a best friend. A lot of the skills that are needed for marriage are the same skills that you need in friendships.

With my best friend, I learned a lot about communication. I learned about putting my selfishness aside for her at times and I learned how to build her up rather than compete with her. I also cooked for my best friend a lot and learned a lot of recipes that I now use on my husband. All these things and more are skills and learned and now use in my marriage today.

With Jesus, I practiced things like submission, obedience, trust, intimacy, etc. Now I'm wokring on implementing those important qualities to my marriage.

Your relationship with your husband or wife will be the most important relationship in your life besides the relationship that you have with God. When your time is approaching the Lord will prepare you as you grow in your relationship with Him and you will bear the fruits of the spirit that will help you to grow in your relationships with others.

^"22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, ²³ gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law." - Galatians 5:22-23

Dispelling Greek Myths through Truth Part II

So, I did a video of the poem I promised after part I. Check out part one HERE.

Below is my video following my current favorite song called "Clear the Stage" by Jimmy Needham. Check it out!

Click HERE for an in depth analysis on sororities and fraternities' ritual books and aspects of idolatry.

Be edified,
Prophetic Poet

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Writer Bio: Karolyne Daudin, a freelance photographer and the official founder of IAMImage Photography Company, lives in Tallahassee as a literature and business major at The Florida State University. There, she leads campus ministries and as spoken word poet, her purpose is to encourage and edify a generation by being an example of Christ in speech, lifestyle, love, faith, and purity. You can check out here website at here at http://iamimage.com/ and you can reach her at iamimagephotos@gmail.com.

Dispelling Greek Myths through Truth!!!

What oaths and pledges are you saying? Who are you bowing down do? What kind of company are you keeping? How is your time being spent? These are a few essential questions we should ask ourselves when checking our hearts for a hidden idolatrous agenda.

Idolatry is  the worship of a God other than the one and only living God that we should serve. The God of Abraham, Issac, and Jacob is the only God we should be serving. Especially if you call yourself a Christian!

God says in Exodus 20:3-5 "You shall have no other gods before me. You shall not make for yourself an idol in the form of anything in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the waters below. You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, punishing the children for the sin of the fathers to the third generation of those who hate me, but showing love to a thousand [generations] of those who love me and keep my commandments."

He said in the form of ANYTHING! That means an idol can come in any form! I doesn't have to be like a stone built idol from historical times! An idol can be your job! An idol can be your spouse! It can be your fraternity or sorority! It can be material things! It can be the act of shopping! It can be the idea of wanting to be in a relationship! It can be ANYTHING that you dedicate high amounts of time to and put it before God. Something that you're dedicated to, obsessed with, and put before God.

Today I'm going to hone in and focus on the issue of Greek life because being a college student, it's very prevalent among my environment.

I see these kids "pledging", so you call it. That very term is questionable by the way!
And at these "inductions" they're "bowing down" which is a form of submission to their fraternity or sorority even though God said "you shall not bow down to them!" Too many people are getting themselves into mess they don't even understand without doing their research.

Well I've done my research, I've done my observation and I've even spoken to Greek Christians and non-Christians and I would like to share some of this research with you.

I know one girl who explained  to me the secret "rituals" that went on behind the whole process and yes there was hazing involved! But the crazy thing is, there was also an aspect of spirituality involved... a laying of hands upon the bible and a speaking of oaths.

Mind you, James 5:12 says: "But above all, my brothers, do not swear, either by heaven or by earth or by any oath, but let your "yes" be yes and your "no" be no, so that you may not fall under condemnation."

This girl isn't even a bible thumping Christian but she explained her feeling of knowing something was not right!!! That's that inner gut feeling, that's the Holy Spirit!

Then, I spoke to someone who just recently got inducted into a fraternity and his gpa lowered almost one who grade point! I'm not talking bout like a 3.0 to a 2.9. I'm talking about like 4.0 to 3.0 type stuff! That is ridiculous! But that just goes on to show the crazy amount of time and dedication it takes to be apart of these Greek organizations that aren't worth missing church in the morning, lowering your gpa, or nothing at all!

I asked him if it was worth it, he said yes. And my thought was, "oh no he's brainwashed" but naw really, it's not worth it. I study psychology so understand why he thinks it's worth it because in psychology it's proven that the harder you work for something the more valuable it is to you and the more likely you are to claim it and stick with it.

But the truth is. NO IT IS NOT WORTH IT!!

Why?

Well you say,

1. "It promotes sisterhood and brotherhood" and I say yea right! In your little circle where you all leave the whole world out and talk about your other brothers and sisters in other organizations or just in the world in general! It promotes division not unity. Who are you kidding!
2. "It's a good networking tool" and I say bruh, God is the best networking tool you need! He has acess to every man's heart and a man who is favored by God will suceed over the one favored by a greek organization.
3. "We promote scholarship" and I say, no you promote wasting my time and cause me to loose my gpa or compromise my academic integrity with plagersism so that I don't fail out of school. You don't allow me enough time to put the best effort in my work and glorify God in the work that I do.
4. "We have christian values" and I say,  no you have luke-warm Christian values cause no true Christian serves two Gods.
5. "We do community service" and I say, community service doesn't have to be just three times a semester. And I don't need permission from an organization to be a blessing to my community. 

These are just a few of the many excuses I've observed people giving to defend their positions and these are my responses to them by the knowledge that God has given me.

I'm going to give you guys some research references to go to but take it upon you self to talk to actual people involved like I did.

And tune back in because soon I'll have a spoken word piece covering this topic. Thank you, NO FEAR!

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Writer Bio: Karolyne Daudin, a freelance photographer and the official founder of IAMImage Photography Company, lives in Tallahassee as a literature and business major at The Florida State University. There, she leads campus ministries and as spoken word poet, her purpose is to encourage and edify a generation by being an example of Christ in speech, lifestyle, love, faith, and purity. You can check out here website at here at http://iamimage.com/ and you can reach her at iamimagephotos@gmail.com.